Terri Binder Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 10:56:38 PM binderterri@hotmail.com Dear Jon and Mara, I am so sad I just don't know what to say except that I love you both and grieve along with you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope you know, as I know, that your sweet baby Parker is with God in heaven and will never hurt again. Mark 10:13 "Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. ... Lisa D'Alessio Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 10:36:54 PM lisitad@yahoo.com Dear Family, There is very little to say at the loss of such a young soul. Some will tell you "only the good die young." Others, she was too good for this world. The only thing that YOU know is the pain and anger that your angel is gone. I don't think there is anything I could say to ease the pain, except I hope, as time goes by you will find a way to get past this in the comfort of each other. I don't know your religion, but I am saying a Rosary for your baby. It may not be relavent to you, but it sure makes me feel better. Please be kind to each other now. Sometimes nerves get frazzled. Love to both of you. Lisa ... Michael & Jean marie Poppinga Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 10:20:58 PM Mpoppinga@juno.com Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We are both very sorry for your loss. ... Rich Carroll Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 10:19:17 PM richcarroll4@home.com There are no words to express the loss you all are suffering. Your family will be in our hearts and prayers. As parents of 9 month old twin girls, we faintly grasp at your emotions. After reading the Denver Post article I will cherish, even more, each moment we live life. I had to stop reading the article numerous times as the emotions were too thick to manage. As Jon said, the gift of being made a better man and a better husband is truely precious. ... Maggie Kopel Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 09:57:48 PM Dear Jon and Mara, That article in the NewsPaper really touched me.And while Parker was alive you were the best parents she could ever wish to have.She led ahappy life,and if she could speak she would say Thank you ... Linda Miller Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 09:57:10 PM lmiller42@home.com I have never felt more inadequate in trying to find the right words. I can only imagine the anguish and pain you feel now, and I feel terrible about your loss, even though I don't know any of you personally. I can't offer any words of comfort or wisdom, but I do pray for you to find peace after this unbearable loss, because I don't know what else to do. You have my deepest sympathy. ... Bob and Bonnie Meyer Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 09:54:35 PM rmeyer61@home.com Dear Jon and Mara, Bonnie and I are saddened to hear of your loss. There are many medical miracles these days and we hoped that one would come your way. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. ... Gary and Karen Dewey Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 09:11:04 PM karen_dy@onebox.com We are so sorry to hear about your losing Parker. Our hearts go out to you. Our prayers are with you, too. We, too, are still in the grieving process, as our oldest son, Michael, was killed in a car crash in Sept., 1998, when he was 24 years old. I (Karen) have read several books, hoping to find some help, and one seemed to help more than the others: The Grief Recovery Handbook, by John James and Russell Friedman. It took me a long time to get through the book...in fact, I still have one chapter to read. It was the one thing I was never prepared for...and the one thing (grieving) I am still learning about. Please take care, Love, Gary and Karen Dewey, Westminster ... David Sholes Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 08:26:57 PM dbsholes@aol.com http://www.HealthComServices.com/erica.html Jon & Mara, Words will never express what I feel for you today. Jon and I live on opposite sides of the political spectrum and he drives me crazy a good share of the time. But I have a ten-month-old daughter named Erica and I cannot imagine what you are going through in losing your sweet little girl. My heart breaks for you. ... Cyndy Adams Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 08:03:14 PM adamspub2@aol.com John and Mara, It is with tears for a sweet child I never knew that I write. Parkers beautiful blue eyes in her halloween costume give no hint of her illness, how devasted you must be. Who has any clue why such things happen? I can only imagine the OVERWHELMING sadness and loss you two are experiencing. People search for the right words to offer at times like this. I am not going to say, "it will get easier", I am not going to say, "I know how you feel", I am not going to say, "Gos must have had a plan...", none of those staements will help right now. Please, allow yourselves to grieve, be angry, question the unfairness of it all, but don't, don't DON'T give up. I will miss you on KOA, but take care of yourself and Mara first. You will surely miss your little Angel.... I wish I could help........ Bless you all, I prayed for Parker and will continue to do so, who knows what comes after our lives here..... I also pray for you, Mara and all of your family... May you find the strength to be weak and allow yourselves all the time you need to get through this tragic and sudden loss. Cyndy Adams Conifer ... Jim Cardle Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 07:44:09 PM lessgovt@austin.rr.com Jon; Jon -- Have really been thinking of you, if you know what I mean, this past week after getting last week's I.I. Newsletter (which you know I read religiously for your sarcasm & humor,) and will redouble my efforts after having read today's Denver Post and looking at your great pictures and video. What a beautiful wife and daughter, and what a great name Parker is too. I think it was really the cute little "P" Halloween costume that got me. Actually, you know my life changed too -- and I mean changed literally -- 5 1/2 years ago and then again 2 1/2 years ago when Will and Audrey were born to me and wife Elizabeth. I've always said that I'd rather be lucky than smart, and my life certainly changed when I "found" Elizabeth 15 years ago on Capitol Hill. But today -- and judging by what you said in the Post, I imagine you too get this -- I realize that everything I thought I was so smart to know and understand and have gotten "on my own" just 5 or 6 short years ago really isn't as important as I once thought. It's just isn't. It's receptivity toward my fellows and a commitment to living by faith -- NOT public management-theory, career-planning or a lowering of the marginal tax rate that matters. Fact is, I don't deserve 1/2 of what I have today or had yesterday anyway. When I look into the face of my children today I see something a WHOLE lot bigger and more powerful than I'll ever be, and THAT's what's important. Every breath I take, not to mention what I've ever gotten "myself" or "had" in my possession is on loan from someone way bigger. And the kicker is, when I get to where I'm willing to admit that and just give it all up, that's when I feel like I'm where I need to be. In my life -- no matter how knowledgeable or powerful or accomplished I thought I was -- it's been when I literally & physically could not stand that I've learned the lessons that are most important. And I know it's gonna be taken care of -- I never was in charge anyway. THAT makes me a better man and today you need to know how thankful for you and Mara & for Parker I am because you've reminded me what its all about -- no more, no less. That's what I need to get thru the race we call life for another day, and I hope I can repay you someday. Thanks, keep the faith, and hope to see you sometime soon to visit. Your friend in Austin, TX. Jim ... W. Dallas "Inky" Heltzell Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 06:36:57 PM gdallas@aol.com Jon, I was so sorry to hear of your loss, and was very moved by Susan Greene's article and your beautiful and inspiring online tribute to Parker and the joy she brought you and Mara. You have my most sincere sympathies. ... karen dejean Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 06:19:09 PM edkaren@qwest.net Dear John and Mara, When I read your story in the paper this morning, I felt such an overwhelming sadness for your loss. Parker was such a beautiful little girl. I believe that Parker was an angel. If you know the song "Angels Among Us", you can relate her short life to being your angel. She came to you to teach you how live, to show you how to give, to guide you with a light of love. John said he never knew he had such love in his heart (or someting to the effect.) Well, Parker taught you to open your heart and to become the person you never could have been without her. You, and all who had the privilege of knowing her and holding her, are a better person for having known the glory of Parker! She will be in your hearts forever and I believe that someday you will see her and be with her again. Live your life the way she taught you. She will live in your hearts for the rest of your days. God bless you both. With deepest sympathy, Karen DeJean ... Ed Toutant Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 06:12:39 PM Jon and Mara, it was my privilege to meet you and Parker at your home last Thanksgiving weekend. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Ed Toutant (Paul B's friend from Texas) ... karen dejean Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 06:10:30 PM ... Leslie H. Lilly Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 06:02:34 PM llilly@ci.castlerock.co.us Dear Jon & Mara, I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of Parker...she's precious and I'm sure the pain of her loss is unbearable at times. I raised my two sons from their infancy...they are now both in college. I cannot imagine loosing them now. My prayers and thoughts are with you. God Bless all of you, Les ... M. Martinez Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 06:01:29 PM I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that you find peace at this time through the support you have from your loved ones and friends. ... Marilynn Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 05:52:09 PM envirobuilders@yahoo.com I would like to say how deeply sorry I am for you loss. I am the mother of a 1 year old and a 3 1/2 year old and while my husband and I have had some frightening medical moments with oldest child, I cannot imagne the deep sorrow and unending pain I would feel if we lost her.My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. P.S. You are doing the right thing in keeping Parker alive through her Dreambook - she may be gone from this earthly world, but she will always be in YOUR dreams and those she touched so deeply with her beautiful laughing eyes! Sincerely, Marilynn Hill ... Steve Caldara Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 05:50:46 PM caldfam@qwest.net Jon & Mara, I so honored to be Parker's uncle, your brother, and your brother-in-law. ... Paul Bartomioli Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 05:44:01 PM satfct@myexcel.com http://www.expage.com/rtkba I am the father of 6. You live my worst nightmare, even though my youngest is 5. My 8 year old and I sit here crying while looking at the pictures. May God the Almighty, who knows more than we can dream of, hold you and your beloved in the palm of his hand. This is one of those times when there is only one set of footprints in the sand. I am so truly heartbroken and sorry. Paul Bartomioli ... Cynthia Mahon-Southern Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 05:36:00 PM cmsouthern@msn.com Jon and Mara, I am so sorry about Parker. My extend my thoughts and prayers to you. Parker is safe and comfortable in God's loving arms and in the company of the dearly departed and the angels in heaven. She is in good company and is waiting for you. I know how hard it is to lose someone. I am coming up on the second anniversary of losing my first husband. I never forget him. He is still with me. Parker will likewise always be with you. God will give you the strength to bear this terrible sadness. She only left this life-she lives on in heaven. Cynthia ... Norm Sherbert Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 04:52:59 PM CHUC@rm.incc.net Dear Jon: My sympathy goes out to you and your wife on the passing of your beautiful daughter, Parker. While it is difficult , if not impossible, to understand "why such a thing should happen to a child", only our faith in God allows us deal with such an unreasonable event. My thoughts and prayers go out to you both, your family, and to your beloved daughter, Parker. ... Mickey Uta Colvin Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 04:42:19 PM colvinrallis@peoplepc.com My prayers are with you and your family, that you may find comfort and consolation. May your little angel guide you in your own paths toward eternity. With deepest sympathy, Mickey Colvin ... Rory Callanan Schneeberger Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 03:56:54 PM Rory_Schneeberger@legis.state.ak.us She's got her FATHER's EYES. Heaven is a richer place! I have four sons in Heaven. I know I'll hold them again someday. You will hold your precious daughter again, too! Cling to that Hope. One day closer to Home, Rory in Alaska ... Beth Cooper Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 03:53:51 PM elizabethcooper1@home.com Jon and Mara: I wanted to let you know all of you, especially Parker, have been in my thoughts and in my prayers since I heard the news last week. There are no adequate words to tell you how incredibly sorry I am at the loss of your precious baby girl. Already, she has touched the minds and hearts of so many people who have seen her picture or the lucky ones who got to meet her. We can never understand why God chose Parker to be with Him, we must have faith that God cares and loves you all and Parker and that she is in God's loving arms and you will be together with her again someday in a place so much more beautiful and wonderful than this world. "The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms" (Deuteronomy 33:27a) You will continue to be in my prayers for peace and strength for the weeks and months to come. Bless you and bless Parker. ... Olympia and Steve Fafoutis Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 03:49:49 PM fafoutis@prodigy.net May Parker's memory be eternal. God give you strength to endure her loss. Our prayers are with you. ... Spencer Duchene Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 03:05:53 PM Spencer_Duchene@hotmail.com Your daughter seemed to be the pride and joy of your life. I am truly sorry for your family and our thoughts and prayers will be with you in this time of grief. The Duchene family Loveland, CO ... Jim Winchester Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 02:39:34 PM jww@viawest.net Dear Jon and Mara, I remember Founders' Night last year when Jon told us all about his joy at Parker's birth. This is a hard, hard loss to bear, and your friends grieve with you. Jim ... john webb Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 02:38:34 PM jwebb@jcfkk.com Please accept my condolences. ... Marion Anderson Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 02:33:36 PM MMAFallRiv@aol.com Jon and Mara: In your grief, we are with you in prayer and spirit. Marion & Clyde Anderson ... Cheri Ofner Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 02:32:40 PM msfit@earthlink.net My love and prayers go out to the Caldera family. I pray God will wrap His loving arms around you and comfort you at this time, and heal the whole in your heart. ... Brian and Eileen Hillis Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 02:21:15 PM bhillis@avaya.com Jon and Mara, Eileen and I are deeply saddened after hearing about Parker. Our warmest thoughts are with you. Love, Brian and Eileen ... Catherine Windels Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 02:13:46 PM catherine.windels@pfizer.com I am so terribly sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter Parker. I pray that the Lord will send you comfort. Please accept my deepest sympathy. Sincerely, Cathy Windels ... melissa Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 02:09:31 PM sweetmam28@hotmail.com Dear Jon, I am saddened to hear of the passing of your daughter. I have a 6 year old and I know it must be the hardest thing to face. May God keep his arms around you and Parkers mother and keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Melissa ... Tom Todd Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:55:10 PM celtbond@home.com Jon and Mara; My deepest sympathies for your loss. My granddaughter Megan is just 2.5 years and they are always special at that age. Keep the faith guys, God will provide. Tom Todd ... mother of 3 Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:52:42 PM parker looks sweet.she has beautiful eyes.Iam sorry that you miss her so much and are sad. ... Tracy Sherman Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:51:48 PM TSherman@parkercolorado.org http://www.parkercolorado.org Jon, my deepest sympathies to you and your wife in the loss of your daughter Parker. I know words do little to heal your pain, however,the passing of time and support of your family and friends will help ease your loss while your memories and love of Parker will always be with you. I am sure Parker is in good hands with god. My best regards to you, your wife and families. Sincerely, Tracy Sherman, Parker Economic Development Council ... Jennifer Hughson Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:46:27 PM jennifer@dimensional.com I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of Parker. Even though I never met her, I can tell from her picture and from the response from all your friends that she was loved very much. Know that she is in good hands now, looking down on you and smiling. ... Malia Zimmerman and Dick Rowland Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:37:06 PM grassroot@hawaii.rr.com http://www.grassrootinstitute.com Dear Jon and Mara, We are so sorry for your loss. Just be comforted in knowing your daughter is dancing with the Angels and smiling down on you. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Warm regards, Malia Zimmerman Dick Rowland Grassroot Institute of Hawaii ... Greg, Lisa, Reece, Brock Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:24:21 PM glrhartman@earthlink.net We are deeply sorry for your loss. After we heard about your daughters passing our family said a prayer for yours. John you are a good man and do good work. I am sure Parker is in the best hands now. God Bless you and your wife. ... Dr. Tim Snyder Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:17:45 PM tsnyder@sargentk12.org Dear Jon and Mara, Was so sorry to hear the news. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Tim Snyder, Sargent School Superintendent ... Tom Fischer Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:17:42 PM tfischer@alumni.haas.org Jon and family, My deepest condolences for your great loss. My thoughts are with you. God bless, Tom Fischer (friend of Marianne and occasional book lender) ... Bill Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:17:38 PM May God be with you during your grief. ... John Hilboldt Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:11:15 PM john.hilboldt@heritage.org http://www.heritage.org Dear Mara and John, Our Lord tells us "a little child shall lead them," and Parker's brief sojourn among us bears unquestionable proof of His truth. Her innocence and spontaneity led both of you to such love, joy and unimagined realms. Now your little blue-eyed wonder leads us all to that brighter, glory-filled place in our Heavenly Father's home. You and your family have my heartfelt condolences. ... Suzanne M. Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:08:38 PM smackle@qwest.com John and Mara, My sincere sympathy over the loss of so precious a gift on this earth. I see her picture on denverchannel.com and see how adorable a gift you were allowed to open and enjoy for such a short time. My love and comfort go out to you in this time of sorrow. I know this sorrow. I promise the days will get easier and this too will be able to be born in time. Where can we look for more help--Psalms 121: 1 and 2: "I look to the mountains ...from where will my help come...from the maker of heaven and earth" You are both in my prayers. May you find comfort in the memory of the joy you shared in a gift called Parker. Love, Suzanne M. ... Amy Ridenour Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 01:00:42 PM aridenour@nationalcenter.org I never met Parker, but my husband did, last month at the SPN meeting. He told me how sweet and beautiful she was, and I know it must be so, because my husband meets many babies, and he does not mention them all to me. We cannot fully express how sorry we are that your time with Parker here on Earth was so limited, but we know that, one day, you will be reunited with her. She truly was -- and is -- an angel. ... Bret, Evelyn and Madeline Egan Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 12:58:48 PM regal4532@aol.com Unknown Anything that has brought a smile to your lips, joy to your heart, or lightness to your step, is a blessing. Anything that has brought warmth to you home, or opened your heart, is a blessing Anything that has made you look deeper, expanded your understanding, or increased your compassion, is a blessing. Anything that has tested your strength, fortified your commitment, or forced you to grow, is a blessing Anything that has reminded you how precious life is, and taught you to treasure your relations, is a blessing. ____________________________________________________________ ... Heather Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 12:48:16 PM firefox0119@hotmail.com Mr & Mrs Caldera- I can imagine that no matter what anyone says or writes to you in a card is going to make you either feel better or ease the pain you are going through right now and for many months to come ...especially nothing from a complete stranger like myself... but I too would like to express my condolences over your loss, as well as my praises that your little girl, Parker, is in a better place...in the arms of her heavenly father. May God give you the understanding and strength to pass through this time of trial -Heather ... Shanna Tucker Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 12:43:40 PM stucker@marcusmillichap.com I am truly saddened by your loss and touched by the pictures of your little "superhero". My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.I am a co-worker of Parker's Aunt Marianne. Warmest Regards, Shanna Tucker ... Richard Volk Wednesday, November 14th 2001 - 12:41:05 PM rvolk@trinityleasing.com My deepest sympathy in your sorrow. Parker was as fortunate to have you as parents as you were to have her. I cannot imagine your loss, but I hope that time will help to heal the hurt you feel